Military Life vs. Relationships

“DISTANCE ISN’T FOR THE FEARFUL; IT IS FOR THE BOLD.

IT IS FOR THOSE WHO ARE WILLING TO SPEND A LOT OF TIME ALONE IN EXCHANGE FOR A LITTLE TIME WITH THE ONE THEY LOVE.

IT IS FOR THOSE WHO KNOW A GOOD THING WHEN THEY SEE IT, EVEN IF THEY DON’T SEE IT NEARLY ENOUGH.”

Man, Sunday came quick. I didn’t do anything exciting this week, but I did do a lot of thinking. I’ve had a lot of time on my hands because, like you know, Jon is deployed. It makes it worse because I have no idea when he will be home.

It’s hard enough as it is being away from your husband for long periods of time, but it’s even harder when you can’t even talk to them. At this point, I haven’t heard from him in over a week; and the whole time he’s been gone, I haven’t even talked to him on the phone or heard his voice. Living this life is not easy, especially while living in a foreign country.

Even though going through this is hard, I still always keep in mind the things I am thankful for…but all this time alone makes me think more and realize a lot.

First of all, I feel incredibly lucky to even be married to someone as great as Jon. The time away from him makes me miss him even more. I’m sure every military spouse appreciates the quote “distance makes the heart grow fonder,” because it’s true. When they’re gone, it gives you the chance to miss them. Unfortunately, that sometimes means that you miss them so much it literally hurts. But I will always say, the day they come home is the best day of your life.

All this free time allows me to understand my acquired relationships a little more, such as my friendships and family relationships. I’m sure anyone living so far away from literally everyone they have ever known can agree that the interaction they still get from some of them means so much. At least it does for me. Being here has really opened my eyes to a lot. I understand now that those who truly appreciate you in their life will let you know. That doesn’t mean talking every single day, but even just a small text or something means the world to some folks. Those in this same position in no way expect constant communication; but we do like a little something every now and then.

I just want those in my life to know that even though I am so far away, I am still there for them. Even if I am going through something difficult, that will be put to the side if they are going through something as well. Unfortunately, we see it to many times that different relationships; family or friendships; get pushed aside when there’s distance. I wish it wasn’t like that.

You build certain relationships for a reason. Certain people are put in your life for a reason. That’s why I am thankful for those friends and family who make me still feel like I am a part of their life even if I am thousands of miles away.

The military life truly tests your heart and your strength. I feel like every deployment or underway gets someone easier. I have only cried once since Jon has been gone, and that is a major improvement from the last one. I try and stay busy to keep my mind off of being sad. With that comes the new friendships that you make while you’re away. I am grateful for those I have made. Even if it’s not a lot of new friends, it’s enough for me!

Thank you to everyone who has stayed by my metaphorical side. It’s really been a blessing and has made this time so much easier.

Until next Sunday!

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